So...here it is...The OGC: The Official Girl Code.
The Official Girl Code
This is the code of guidelines that all girls must obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.
There are many opinions if the Girl Code actually exists, as well as the Guy Code.
1) If you change boyfriends so fast they rarely achieve name status, a man must be around for at least six weeks before you make your friends bother to learn his first name. Until such time, he should be referred to as "The boy" or "That guy".
2) All girls must have a "Mr.Right Now". This is the guy friend who is always ready and available to hang out with you, and may or may not like you as more than a friend. He is always ready to party till dawn, and do things you wish you didn't remember in the morning. He's not “Mr. Right,” but he may be good enough to be “Mr. Right Now.”
3) If you just met a guy and know absolutely nothing about him, but need to refer to him during 'girl talk' you use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes... that guy.
(Ex. "The Camaro guy", "The Trainer dude", "The Four a.m. in the Taxi Guy")
4) Every girl must wait at least a day and a half before calling a guy whose number she has retrieved.
5) You are never in any case to date a friend's ex or a guy who she was really into.
Exception: If he's one of those guys who every girl likes.
6) You are to never diss a friend's boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he's being a jerk. In most cases, it is easier to nod.
Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend, it is exceptional for you to claim he isn't good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was a jerk anyway.
7) If you want to date a friend's brother, it is required that you get said friend's permission.
8) No girl is to ever hang out with the boyfriend of a friend without the friend present. If permission to is granted there should be at least 3 other people with you.
9) No girl may have more than one 'Love of her Life' at one time, though having a boyfriend and a 'Love of her Life' is fine.
10) No girl shall wear the same outfit or perfume as a friend if they will knowingly be in the same place.
11) No girl shall purchase a distinctive item of clothing which she is aware her friend owns without express permission from the friend.
12) No girl shall borrow an item of clothing without asking the clothing owner's permission, unless both parties have made an official decision to waive this rule in the context of their friendship.
13) An eye for an eye and a foot for a foot. If a friend borrows an item of clothing and destroys it, said friend must re-pay it.
14) The penalty for exposing a secret to an unauthorized party shall be exile from Girlville.
15) A girl who can substantially claim that she was not aware that a piece of information was a secret at the time she exposed it shall not be subject to punishment.
16) Inside jokes are not to be explained to outsiders.
17) Always leave a man wanting more but don't leave him guessing too long since guys do not take hints easily.
18) If a guy your friend is into asks for your number, you are to deny it and walk away, and/or slip him your friends number while saying, "I think she is more your type, you should call her".
19) Sisters Before Misters...Simple.
20) In a case where a friend spreads a horrible rumor about a friend and then apologizes, they are to be given the cold-shoulder for at least 3 days.
21) In a fight between a friend and her boyfriend, you must always choose your friend's side.
22) When dating, a girl should find equal and/or enough time to still hang out with her girls.
23) Never insult your friend, but never let your friend leave the house looking hideous. Find a better way to tell your friend how they look.
Ex: 'I think your other jeans are nice', 'You should wear less eyeliner, you have great eyes'.
24) When a friend is drunk, never allow her to dial, drive or leave with a random guy.
25) When a friend calls you up complaining about how she is drunk and can't go home, you must allow her to stay at your house...without letting your parentals (if you live with them) find out.
26) When out with the ladies, if Girl #1 points out a guy that she is interested in, Girl #2 should avoid making a beeline over to him to get his number for herself... Show some respect.
27) When said evening is described as a "Girls’ Night Out", that means it is for GIRLS ONLY. Consider it payback for all those tree houses and snow forts we couldn't enter as children. Do not invite your boyfriend.
28) Stop being the "Me too!" girl. If your friend is telling a story, stop stealing her thunder – and her story – by constantly trying to one-up her. For example:
GIRL 1: I had a horrible day. My flat iron broke in the middle of straightening, I dropped my brand new bottle of Burberry Touch on the bathroom floor, I missed the bus by two seconds and was late for school, my teacher yelled at me for something Sally did, and I got into a fight with Jason over whose family we are spending Thanksgiving with.
GIRL 2: Oh that’s horrible. The same thing happened to me today; only I stepped in gum on the subway platform, too. And when I went to scrape it off, I tripped and ripped my stockings and it reminded me of the time I was at my ex-boyfriend’s place for Christmas...
29) Be a responsible friend and not a 'Yes-Girl'. If a friend is asking you if she should get back together with her ex who cheated on her, never wanted to hang out with her and then blamed her for them breaking up, and you say 'Yes', then you're a bad friend. Friends are supposed to protect and help friends. SO say your part even if they don't like what you have to say.
30) Don't be a hater. If a girl walks in looking gorgeous, girls automatically try to find something bad about her. But who knows? She could have just lost a friend, or got dumped, etc. So be nice and stop hating.
31) Don't go against the Girl Code
2) All girls must have a "Mr.Right Now". This is the guy friend who is always ready and available to hang out with you, and may or may not like you as more than a friend. He is always ready to party till dawn, and do things you wish you didn't remember in the morning. He's not “Mr. Right,” but he may be good enough to be “Mr. Right Now.”
3) If you just met a guy and know absolutely nothing about him, but need to refer to him during 'girl talk' you use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes... that guy.
(Ex. "The Camaro guy", "The Trainer dude", "The Four a.m. in the Taxi Guy")
4) Every girl must wait at least a day and a half before calling a guy whose number she has retrieved.
5) You are never in any case to date a friend's ex or a guy who she was really into.
Exception: If he's one of those guys who every girl likes.
6) You are to never diss a friend's boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he's being a jerk. In most cases, it is easier to nod.
Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend, it is exceptional for you to claim he isn't good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was a jerk anyway.
7) If you want to date a friend's brother, it is required that you get said friend's permission.
8) No girl is to ever hang out with the boyfriend of a friend without the friend present. If permission to is granted there should be at least 3 other people with you.
9) No girl may have more than one 'Love of her Life' at one time, though having a boyfriend and a 'Love of her Life' is fine.
10) No girl shall wear the same outfit or perfume as a friend if they will knowingly be in the same place.
11) No girl shall purchase a distinctive item of clothing which she is aware her friend owns without express permission from the friend.
12) No girl shall borrow an item of clothing without asking the clothing owner's permission, unless both parties have made an official decision to waive this rule in the context of their friendship.
13) An eye for an eye and a foot for a foot. If a friend borrows an item of clothing and destroys it, said friend must re-pay it.
14) The penalty for exposing a secret to an unauthorized party shall be exile from Girlville.
15) A girl who can substantially claim that she was not aware that a piece of information was a secret at the time she exposed it shall not be subject to punishment.
16) Inside jokes are not to be explained to outsiders.
17) Always leave a man wanting more but don't leave him guessing too long since guys do not take hints easily.
18) If a guy your friend is into asks for your number, you are to deny it and walk away, and/or slip him your friends number while saying, "I think she is more your type, you should call her".
19) Sisters Before Misters...Simple.
20) In a case where a friend spreads a horrible rumor about a friend and then apologizes, they are to be given the cold-shoulder for at least 3 days.
21) In a fight between a friend and her boyfriend, you must always choose your friend's side.
22) When dating, a girl should find equal and/or enough time to still hang out with her girls.
23) Never insult your friend, but never let your friend leave the house looking hideous. Find a better way to tell your friend how they look.
Ex: 'I think your other jeans are nice', 'You should wear less eyeliner, you have great eyes'.
24) When a friend is drunk, never allow her to dial, drive or leave with a random guy.
25) When a friend calls you up complaining about how she is drunk and can't go home, you must allow her to stay at your house...without letting your parentals (if you live with them) find out.
26) When out with the ladies, if Girl #1 points out a guy that she is interested in, Girl #2 should avoid making a beeline over to him to get his number for herself... Show some respect.
27) When said evening is described as a "Girls’ Night Out", that means it is for GIRLS ONLY. Consider it payback for all those tree houses and snow forts we couldn't enter as children. Do not invite your boyfriend.
28) Stop being the "Me too!" girl. If your friend is telling a story, stop stealing her thunder – and her story – by constantly trying to one-up her. For example:
GIRL 1: I had a horrible day. My flat iron broke in the middle of straightening, I dropped my brand new bottle of Burberry Touch on the bathroom floor, I missed the bus by two seconds and was late for school, my teacher yelled at me for something Sally did, and I got into a fight with Jason over whose family we are spending Thanksgiving with.
GIRL 2: Oh that’s horrible. The same thing happened to me today; only I stepped in gum on the subway platform, too. And when I went to scrape it off, I tripped and ripped my stockings and it reminded me of the time I was at my ex-boyfriend’s place for Christmas...
29) Be a responsible friend and not a 'Yes-Girl'. If a friend is asking you if she should get back together with her ex who cheated on her, never wanted to hang out with her and then blamed her for them breaking up, and you say 'Yes', then you're a bad friend. Friends are supposed to protect and help friends. SO say your part even if they don't like what you have to say.
30) Don't be a hater. If a girl walks in looking gorgeous, girls automatically try to find something bad about her. But who knows? She could have just lost a friend, or got dumped, etc. So be nice and stop hating.
31) Don't go against the Girl Code
I'm sure everyone has a close friend who has made a mistake about choosing a guy over a friend. I am not condemning them or saying that they deserve to be kicked out of "Girlville". People make mistakes. I too have made mistakes when it comes to friends and guys. All I am saying is that sometimes we as teenage girls can sometimes get too caught up in the drama and excitement of boys and dating.
Sometimes we need to just take a deep breath, review the rules, think about them, then see if we made a mistake and might have hurt a friend for A GUY in the process. Then APOLOGIZE.
I love my friends way too much to lose them over a guy who may seem like "The One"; so I remember the rules to keep myself from making a mistake that might hurt someone really close to me. I think there would be less catfights in the world if we all just remembered the rules and tried our best to live by them.
Thanks for listening to me. I hope it helps someone out there.
~Your Carrie Bradshaw-In-Training
