Sunday, June 30, 2013

The OGC: The Official Girl Code

When the stories of girls abandoning their gal-pals for time with their boyfriends, I wonder if we as a group of girls just need to refresh our minds in the subject of "Sisters before Misters".  Some of my friends from outside of school and I made a vow to live by that motto in order to keep healthy friendships and healthy dating relationships.  Ever since then, I have tried follow the strict rules of sisterhood.  I have always felt that guys come and go but a true gal-pal...they are one in a million.  So what is it about girls...specifically teenage girls?  Why do we make silly mistakes and have dumb fights that end up costing us a friend just for some guy that is ultimately going to break our heart?  What is the marvelous age where we learn that a gal-pal is there whenever, wherever, or for whatever reason?  Listen to me...I sound like Carrie Bradshaw.  (FYI I only like her quotes from her columns...That's it.  I'm not allowed to watch the show, but I've read some of her columns online.) it is...The OGC: The Official Girl Code.

The Official Girl Code

This is the code of guidelines that all girls must obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.
There are many opinions if the Girl Code actually exists, as well as the Guy Code.

1) If you change boyfriends so fast they rarely achieve name status, a man must be around for at least six weeks before you make your friends bother to learn his first name. Until such time, he should be referred to as "The boy" or "That guy". 

2) All girls must have a "Mr.Right Now". This is the guy friend who is always ready and available to hang out with you, and may or may not like you as more than a friend. He is always ready to party till dawn, and do things you wish you didn't remember in the morning. He's not “Mr. Right,” but he may be good enough to be “Mr. Right Now.” 

3) If you just met a guy and know absolutely nothing about him, but need to refer to him during 'girl talk' you use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes... that guy. 
(Ex. "The Camaro guy", "The Trainer dude", "The Four a.m. in the Taxi Guy") 

4) Every girl must wait at least a day and a half before calling a guy whose number she has retrieved

5) You are never in any case to date a friend's ex or a guy who she was really into. 
Exception: If he's one of those guys who every girl likes. 

6) You are to never diss a friend's boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he's being a jerk. In most cases, it is easier to nod. 
Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend, it is exceptional for you to claim he isn't good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was a jerk anyway. 

7) If you want to date a friend's brother, it is required that you get said friend's permission. 

8) No girl is to ever hang out with the boyfriend of a friend without the friend present. If permission to is granted there should be at least 3 other people with you. 

9) No girl may have more than one 'Love of her Life' at one time, though having a boyfriend and a 'Love of her Life' is fine. 

10) No girl shall wear the same outfit or perfume as a friend if they will knowingly be in the same place. 

11) No girl shall purchase a distinctive item of clothing which she is aware her friend owns without express permission from the friend. 

12) No girl shall borrow an item of clothing without asking the clothing owner's permission, unless both parties have made an official decision to waive this rule in the context of their friendship. 

13) An eye for an eye and a foot for a foot. If a friend borrows an item of clothing and destroys it, said friend must re-pay it. 

14) The penalty for exposing a secret to an unauthorized party shall be exile from Girlville. 

15) A girl who can substantially claim that she was not aware that a piece of information was a secret at the time she exposed it shall not be subject to punishment. 

16) Inside jokes are not to be explained to outsiders. 

17) Always leave a man wanting more but don't leave him guessing too long since guys do not take hints easily. 

18) If a guy your friend is into asks for your number, you are to deny it and walk away, and/or slip him your friends number while saying, "I think she is more your type, you should call her". 

19) Sisters Before Misters...Simple.

20) In a case where a friend spreads a horrible rumor about a friend and then apologizes, they are to be given the cold-shoulder for at least 3 days. 

21) In a fight between a friend and her boyfriend, you must always choose your friend's side. 

22) When dating, a girl should find equal and/or enough time to still hang out with her girls. 

23) Never insult your friend, but never let your friend leave the house looking hideous. Find a better way to tell your friend how they look. 
Ex: 'I think your other jeans are nice', 'You should wear less eyeliner, you have great eyes'. 

24) When a friend is drunk, never allow her to dial, drive or leave with a random guy. 

25) When a friend calls you up complaining about how she is drunk and can't go home, you must allow her to stay at your house...without letting your parentals (if you live with them) find out. 

26) When out with the ladies, if Girl #1 points out a guy that she is interested in, Girl #2 should avoid making a beeline over to him to get his number for herself... Show some respect. 

27) When said evening is described as a "Girls’ Night Out", that means it is for GIRLS ONLY. Consider it payback for all those tree houses and snow forts we couldn't enter as children. Do not invite your boyfriend. 

28) Stop being the "Me too!" girl. If your friend is telling a story, stop stealing her thunder – and her story – by constantly trying to one-up her. For example: 
GIRL 1: I had a horrible day. My flat iron broke in the middle of straightening, I dropped my brand new bottle of Burberry Touch on the bathroom floor, I missed the bus by two seconds and was late for school, my teacher yelled at me for something Sally did, and I got into a fight with Jason over whose family we are spending Thanksgiving with. 
GIRL 2: Oh that’s horrible. The same thing happened to me today; only I stepped in gum on the subway platform, too. And when I went to scrape it off, I tripped and ripped my stockings and it reminded me of the time I was at my ex-boyfriend’s place for Christmas... 

29) Be a responsible friend and not a 'Yes-Girl'. If a friend is asking you if she should get back together with her ex who cheated on her, never wanted to hang out with her and then blamed her for them breaking up, and you say 'Yes', then you're a bad friend. Friends are supposed to protect and help friends. SO say your part even if they don't like what you have to say. 

30) Don't be a hater. If a girl walks in looking gorgeous, girls automatically try to find something bad about her. But who knows? She could have just lost a friend, or got dumped, etc. So be nice and stop hating. 

31) Don't go against the Girl Code

I'm sure everyone has a close friend who has made a mistake about choosing a guy over a friend.  I am not condemning them or saying that they deserve to be kicked out of "Girlville".  People make mistakes.  I too have made mistakes when it comes to friends and guys.  All I am saying is that sometimes we as teenage girls can sometimes get too caught up in the drama and excitement of boys and dating.  

Sometimes we need to just take a deep breath, review the rules, think about them, then see if we made a mistake and might have hurt a friend for A GUY in the process.  Then APOLOGIZE.

I love my friends way too much to lose them over a guy who may seem like "The One"; so I remember the rules to keep myself from making a mistake that might hurt someone really close to me.  I think there would be less catfights in the world if we all just remembered the rules and tried our best to live by them.  

Thanks for listening to me.  I hope it helps someone out there.

~Your Carrie Bradshaw-In-Training

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Introduction to Me.

This fall I will be a freshman in high school.  I will admit that I am a little nervous.  No. Scratch that.  I am really nervous!  I have always been the super shy girl that is awarded high honor roll every term.  I may be really shy in my personal life, but I always have something to say during class.  I decided to start this blog to keep an online diary of tips, advice and lessons that I will soon learn more about over the next four years of my life.

So let me tell you a bit about myself.  I won't be telling you where I'm going to high school or my name or even the name of the town of the school...for obvious reasons of course.  I will tell you that I was accepted last year to attend one of the Top 50 Catholic High Schools in the Nation.  I worked my butt off all of last year for scholarships, awards, and the acceptance to the HIGH SCHOOL OF MY DREAMS!  I know it probably sounds funny to hear about someone being accepted to their dream school when they aren't even old enough to vote.  I work hard for everything I earn in my life.  I graduated top of my class last year, and proved that hard work takes you far.  I spent 98% of my life working on my school work and 1% on friends and the other 1% on my family.  It was hard to balance everything out last year...but I survived.

I realized probably just last summer that I wanted to attend this amazing school after watching my close friend give her speech as Valedictorian of her class at the high school.  She has always been a role model for me so when I heard her acceptance speech I realized that this school would be the right the school for me as well.  She is still giving me tons of help and guidance as I make my journey into high school even though she attends college in Washington, DC.  I love technology...thank you cellphones and texting.  She has always been an inspiration in my life, and she inspired me to work hard to be able to be accepted into the school that helped her.  I hope to one day have that same effect on a young student looking at this school.

Now that I told you all about my third favorite place in the world...third to church and THE BEACH.  I have to tell you that my journey so far hasn't been an easy one like how my friends had.  I worked extra hard last year to be able to win scholarships to help pay for school.  I also won about 18 different awards and certificates proving that I all of my time and effort was worth it.  I felt bad about beating so many of my friends for the awards, but I felt good that I was recognized by so many different groups of people that I was smart and successful in life.

You will notice that not my current personal icon on my blog is the WHITE HOUSE! Yes, THE WHITE HOUSE!  All of my life I have loved the idea of being the President of the United States of America.  I hope to be able to serve my country proudly one day.  I promise not to bring politics into any of my posts...but if I do, please forgive me.

Well, now that you know a little about me, please feel free to post anything on my blog...but please keep it on topics concerning my blog.

~Your Future Madam President